Talking to your daughter about getting a life coach can be tricky. Although you know the benefits of receiving extra support from someone outside family and friend circles, you’re not sure your daughter will understand. She hasn’t asked for extra support, but deep down, you know she will benefit from having a safe outlet to express her feelings, process her experiences, and gain tools and insights that will help her now and into the future.
So how do you start a meaningful conversation about coaching and help your daughter see the many ways she will benefit?
Use your parent-wisdom.
Try this: “I know you don’t want to talk with me about everything and that’s OK. You may want someone else to talk with about some of the hard stuff you are experiencing. I didn’t always feel comfortable opening up to my mom or dad and I wish I’d had someone in my life when I was a teen. I want to make sure you have that opportunity.”
Ask open-ended questions.
Try this: “How are things going for you?” “What is it like starting at a new school? Making new friends?” “What do you think about talking with someone who can help make these experiences a bit easier?”
Consider your timing.
Your daughter is more likely to resist the idea of coaching when she is in a crisis or in a fight with you. Choose a time to talk when she is relaxed, calm, and open.
Emphasize the fact that asking for help is an act of strength.
Top athletes would not be playing at a professional level without a coach. Successful entrepreneurs would not achieve their goals without mentorship. No matter what the walk of life, we all benefit from having someone in our corner who can cheer us on, offer perspective, and help us sharpen our skills. Coaching will help your daughter grow stronger and reach her potential.
Assure her that getting a life coach is not a punishment, nor is it a tool to ‘fix’ her.
Instead, emphasize the fact that coaching provides her a safe place to vent, build on her strengths, and receive tools that apply to everyday problems. Coaching is not designed to fix anyone, but instead enhance the gifts that are already present.
It is normal for girls to feel hesitant about getting a life coach.
For many, it is the first time they’ve talked with someone outside their friend and family circles, so it’s quite natural to feel a bit nervous or uncertain. If your daughter is open to giving coaching a try but hesitant to make a commitment, schedule a complimentary meet-and-greet session. She will gain clarity, answers to her questions, and get a feel for the connection she’ll have with her coach.