So you want your daughter to get a life coach…

by | Jan 12, 2021 | Teenagers | 2 comments

Talking to your daughter about getting a life coach can be tricky. Although you know the benefits of receiving extra support from someone outside family and friend circles, you’re not sure your daughter will understand the benefits of having a safe outlet to express her feelings, process her experiences, and gain tools and insights that will help her now and in her future.

So how do you start a meaningful conversation about life coaching?

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Use your parent-wisdom.

Try this:  “I know you don’t want to talk with me about everything and that’s OK. You may want someone else to talk with about some of the hard stuff you are experiencing. I want to make sure you have that opportunity.”

You may also want to admit that coaching will help you too. Let her know that you don’t always have the answers or know the best way to guide her.

Ask open-ended questions.

Try this: “How are things going for you?” “What would it be like to have someone outside your family and friend group who will listen and support you?” “What would it be like if you didn’t feel stressed and anxious so often?”  As she opens up, let her know you recently met a life coach who specializes in supporting teen girls and young women in living happier, more amazing lives. Ask her if she’d be open to a brief meeting, no strings attached.

Consider your timing.

Your daughter is more likely to resist the idea of life coaching when she is in a crisis or in a fight with you.  Choose a time to talk when she is relaxed, calm, and open.

Emphasize the fact that asking for help is an act of strength.  

Athletes work with coaches to help improve their skills, strength, and performance. Celebrities hire coaches to help them sharpen their talent and navigate the challenges that come with fame. Successful entrepreneurs have coaches who help them clarify and reach their goals.  No matter what the walk of life, we all benefit from having someone in our corner who can cheer us on, offer perspective, and help us sharpen our skills. A life coach will help your daughter grow stronger and reach her potential.

Assure her that getting a life coach is not a punishment, nor is it a tool to ‘fix’ her.

Instead, emphasize the fact that through life coaching, she will have a safe place to vent, build on her strengths, and receive tools that apply to everyday problems. Life coaching is not designed to fix anyone, but instead enhance the gifts that are already present. Explain that a life coach will be her advocate and cheerleader, supporting her through life’s most challenging times so she can feel her best and live her best life!

It is normal for girls to feel hesitant about getting a life coach.

For many, it is the first time they’ve talked with someone outside their friend and family circles, so it’s quite natural to feel a bit nervous or uncertain. It’s important to emphasize that she will have a say in whether coaching and the coach are a good fit.  Invite her to schedule a meet-and-greet session before making a commitment to a coaching program. This brief session is an opportunity to get answers to her questions, as well as a feel for the connection she’ll have with her coach.


  1. I like that you mentioned how coaching can help provide you with the tools that you need to solve issues that you come across daily. My daughter has started to drink alcohol ever since her mother passed away last year, and I would like to find a way to help her with her addiction so that she doesn’t get kicked out of school this year. Maybe a life coach could help her find the resolve needed to handle her everyday struggles.

    • Toby, Thank you for your comment. Coaching can help your daughter get clear and connected to her values, and learn how to use her values to guide her decision making. I would be happy to talk with you more. Please schedule a free discovery call.


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