Most people fear change. It registers as uncertainty and as Tim Ferriss, bestselling author and host of The Tim Ferriss show, says, “people would rather be unhappy than uncertain.”
Change can threaten our security because it triggers worst-case scenario thinking and feelings of disempowerment. This is especially true when a change is unwelcome or surprising, like a pandemic or sudden loss.
But the thing is, change is the only thing that is certain in life, and our challenge is to find ways to welcome it rather than run from it. Here’s how you can do it.
Shift Your Mindset-
Start to think about change as a positive experience. Instead of dwelling on negative what-ifs, think of constructive what-ifs. Promote positive changes by getting clear on what you really want. Set goals, create a vision board, and envision yourself moving through changes in an empowered and determined way. Process emotions triggered by change through journaling or talking with a friend or coach.
Ground and Anchor-
Realize that while life may be changing, the core of who you are does not change. Remind yourself of your strengths and unwavering values. Consider all the changes you have already gone through, and reflect on the good that has come out of what at first seemed undesirable. Ground yourself in two truths- who you are and what you are capable of. You can weather the storms and welcome the rainbows of change.
Grow and Flow-
While allowing the truth of who you are to be your anchor, also be open to the growth and possibility that comes along with a change. Resilience is always strengthened as a result of moving through change. Similarly, change often leads to more clarity and insight. You learn more about yourself and your right life path. Flow into change and allow yourself to be amazed by the positive outcomes.
Dismantle the Fear-
Explore what is behind your fear of change. Most of the time fear is connected to a story that is almost always not based on truth or reality. Ask yourself, what is so scary about a certain change? Notice what your answer reveals. Is your fear coming from a painful past experience or a made-up story stemming from past events? If so, can you tell yourself a different tale, one that is more honest and helpful? Remember that the past does not have to dictate the future?
Heraclitus, the Greek philosopher said, “Change is the only constant in life.” Expecting change and learning how to welcome it can only create more joy, contentment, and excitement.
Instead of running from change, move into it with curiosity, openness, and optimism. Trust that even the most challenging change has the potential to lead to opportunities, renewal, and growth. Look for the rainbows!