Discover five practical ways to help your teenage daughter build confidence. 

Girls are growing up in a world that constantly judges them.  From social media trends and influencers to peer and academic pressure, many teen girls struggle to feel “enough.”  Without the right support, these influences and pressures can damage their confidence and self-esteem. 

When parents recognize a lack of confidence in their daughters, many seek coaching. Life coaching is a great way to help girls develop confidence, but parents can also play a key role. Here are five simple strategies you can use to help your teenage daughter build confidence.

1. Focus on Effort, Not Outcome

Confidence grows from trying new things, putting forth effort and staying the course. When your daughter tries out for a team, dedicates time to homework, or sticks with something, praise the process! 

Try saying: “I respect your work ethic.” or “You’re a dedicated student/friend/person.” 

This kind of parent feedback helps her see herself as capable and resilient. It builds a positive self-image and promotes confidence! 

2. Model Self-Confidence

Your daughter learns by watching you. When she sees you make mistakes and respond  without shame or blame, she learns self-compassion.  When she watches you take healthy risks, without letting fear or self-doubt stop you, she learns courage.

Let her hear you say things like, “That didn’t go how I hoped, but I feel stronger because I tried.” or “It’s OK that I feel a little scared. It means I care and that can help me do my best.” 

Modeling self-confidence teaches your daughter that confidence can grow out of mistakes, and fear does not need to be an obstacle.

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3. Identify her Inner-Voice

Teen girls can be very hard on themselves. Without realizing it, they can find themselves in the grip of their inner-critic, believing that they are not good enough, smart enough, or pretty enough.   You can help your daughter recognize her inner-critic and promote the positive, self-supporting inner-voice.

When you hear negative self-talk, say: “That sounds like your inner critic. Is that really true?” You may also ask, “Would you talk that way to a best friend?”
Then gently encourage her to focus on a positive, helpful thought. You can prompt her with this question: “What is a more helpful, honest thing to say to yourself?” 

Bringing awareness to her inner-critic helps her take control of it.  When she learns to amplify the voice of her inner-advocate, and speak to herself with kindness, she’ll carry an unshakable  inner confidence..

4. Strengthen Her Sense of Belonging

Confidence thrives in connection. Spend quality time together. Listen more than you lecture.  Say things that remind her she’s valued for who she is, not what she does. Celebrate her individuality.

When she knows she’s accepted at home, she’s more likely to stand strong in the world.

5. Talk about Confidence

Girls hear a lot about confidence but they don’t always know what it means. In fact, many girls believe confidence is solely about appearance or popularity.  It’s critical to help your daughter understand what is real confidence.  

Ask your teen open-ended questions about confidence. Something as simple as “What does confidence mean to you?” can spark an insightful dialogue. In addition, you can explore the qualities of confident people and talk about the differences between authentic confidence and shallow confidence. 

Raising a Confident Daughter

Building your daughter’s confidence isn’t about pushing her to be perfect. It’s about helping her develop a deep belief that she is enough. That she is capable, worthy, and strong.

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